Yes, it’s risky. Welcome to the world of having a brain.

The alternative is going through life without ever learning from experience. Look: I went through my “no judgment” phase and I was lucky enough to emerge from it. It’s kind to believe that people are all unique individuals and all deserving of born-today consideration, but it’s false. Fact is, people strive to exercise patterns and follow what they think they’re supposed to do. You can protect yourself by learning from and recognizing these patterns or you can go through life being cheated, robbed, and used.

I make value judgments. Sometimes I err. Sometimes I’m wrong, sometimes I make a fool of myself, sometimes I hurt undeserving people. But.

Every single transvestite I have ever trusted has stolen from me. Every single person I ever knew who became a transvestite ceased to work and became a serial moocher. And I am not talking about one or two, I came out in Norfolk, VA in 1974 where the entire gay scene was drag queens and I knew dozens. There is a pattern there. I allow myself to see it. That doesn’t mean I believe that every transvestite on earth is a self-absorbed thief, but I would be starry-eyed to not presume that those I’ve experienced were anything but representative of the majority. This presumption is statistically defensible.

One of my former students (I teach ESL in Vietnam for a work visa) is heavy into cosplay. I warned him to stay away from crossdressing. I told him what I’ve told you.

I think we’re done here.

American Software Developer living in Vietnam. Classical musician (guitar, woodwinds), weightlifter, multilingual, misanthrope • XY

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