That last part is just plain wrong. Confrontational belligerence was 100% harmful. Telling the "str8s" how much you hated them didn't help.
But let's talk about the first part.
Yes I absolutely always wanted to assimilate into the whole society, and if you want to think of it as "straight" society then that's your problem. We are in the minority and always will be, as we have been throughout history at the same 3-5%.
Because while gay people have always made a disproportionate contribution to society, the gay culture was toxic and sick, riven with cruelty, celebrating immaturity and impulsivity and with nothing whatever to offer. Unless you think camp was cute. I didn't.
If you still think assimilation is a dirty word, if being gay is the foundation of your identity, if you still think that being offensive is some kind of virtue, then you have my pity.
And in another generation that sick culture will be absolutely gone. And good riddance.