I haven't written about explicitly this issue but I did write this, which includes it n less detail
When I first came out in 1974 I very briefly adopted the enclave behavior; I put on the fake "queer" vocalization, I wore platform shoes and flowered shirts ... a month or two later I grew up and threw all that away. and went back to being myself. We didn't call ourselves "queer" back then and I would have reacted the same way to that as if it had come from some conservative religious bigot.
I knew this would happen decades ago; the fact of national same-sex marriage and the dissolution of the cruel and vapid enclave culture turns people who felt special into ordinary people and they just can't stand that.
Well, that's just too bad,
There has always been something deeply wrong with the gay enclave society; it is viciously cruel, wantonly immature, desperately self-absorbed. In 1982 we knew how HIV was transmitted and had the gay culture responded responsibly there would not have been a single new case after that, but almost all cases came after that. It was and what remains of it is wholly unsuited to maturity and survival and it needs to disappear.