I clapped you up to a thousand. This is so resonant.
I'm a gay man who has a whopping big issue with the current "trans" ID; it so happens I've dated several transsexual men and known many more. All had qualified for gender reassignment surgery and were preoperative.I respected them and several were close friends. I can't say the same for transvestites who are, without exception in my experience, attention-hungry cross-gender cosplayers who lived with a succession of soon-to-be-ex-friends from whom they stole.
Living outside the USA and having had nothing to to with the LGBTQI[this space for rent] communities I really don't have a dog in this fight anymore; to be gay is just a characteristic and I can't wait for the cruel and immature gay culture fade away.
But there's a problem: they won't leave my language alone.
"If your husband beats you, they should go to jail"
They. One person, known gender. They.
"(sniff) I prefer gender-neutral language."
Well aren't you just special.
And the people pushing this nonsense are just attention-seekers of another sort, willing to adulterate a language that already has pronoun problems with this filth. You see those twitter profiles with "they/them," people I will never hear from.
The singular they has been controversial for 400 years, it's not settled just because a few men like to dress as women. And it has nothing to do with transsexuals, none of whom I've met wanted anything to do with this "they" nonsense.