Actually, Steve, I disagree with that, and neither casually nor capriciously. My disagreement with that forms the foundation of my outlook toward my fellow humans. This is probably not the right medium (pun intended) for this but oddly enough this subject has come up several times in the last 24 hours and if you dno't mind my bending your ear a bit, "allow me to retort."

In my late teens to early 20s I was passionate about individuality and doing everything possible to allow each and every person to grow and develop into his unique identity, that hindrances to this, any imposition of uniformity, was horrible and wrong.

My thinking is now almost completely opposite this.

I have come to realize that we as a species are vastly more alike than we are different, and that we focus far far far too much on interstices of differences when we should be focusing more on the vast plains of similarities.

Following this thought, I believe that a great amount of what we revere as individuality is actually conceit. We like to think we're different, even unique (in its original meaning) because it makes us feel *special*.

I've been in three longterm gay relationships and in two of them we were familiar with many other couples and share some precious candor; I was continually astonished at how much hetero- and homosexual couples had in common, how many issues we all shared, how many problems.

I don't know anything about you, nor is your personal life a matter of curiosity to me, but I had rather ample experience with the "trans" world many decades ago, when it was a lot more clandestine than it is now, and when it comes to matters of gender identity I think this need to feel singular and special reaches its apotheosis.

Yes people are indeed different. But we are much, much much more alike than we are different, however depressing that may seem. Otherwise how could we communicate?

My 2¢

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